Abadali be-“Divorce-tok” Babelana Ngesehlukaniso Nokululama Ezinkundleni Zokuxhumana

Okushintshile

Inani elikhulayo labadali bezinkundla zokuxhumana, ikakhulukazi abesifazane, libhala esidlangalaleni ngesehlukaniso, ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana, ukuzimela ngokwezimali nokululama ku-TikTok naku-Instagram, lisebenzisa amavidiyo omuntu siqu aphindaphindwayo ukuze lifune futhi linikeze ukwesekwa komphakathi. I-hashtag ethi #divorce inezigidi zokuthunyelwe kuzo zombili lezi zinkundla, ngokusho kwe-AP Sports.

UMonette Wagner, umthwebuli wezithombe wase-Indianapolis oneminyaka engu-36 nomama wezingane ezintathu, usebenzise i-Instagram ukukhuluma ngesehlukaniso sakhe sakamuva, ukuzimela ngokwezimali, ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana nokwakha kabusha ubuwena bakhe. UJen Hamilton, umhlengikazi wegumbi lokubelethisa onabalandeli be-TikTok abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-5, wabelane ngendlela aphatheke ngayo ngokomzwelo ngesehlukaniso sakhe; uHamilton usole ukuthi umyeni wakhe wayephila “impilo ephindwe kabili” nomunye umlingani, okuyindaba engazange iqinisekiswe ngokuzimela embikweni. AP Sports

Kungani lokhu kubalulekile

Le ndlela iguqula izindaba zomuntu ngamunye zokuphatheka kabi kwenhliziyo, ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana nezinguquko zezimali zibe yindawo yokuxoxisana kontanga. Abadali bathola indlela yokuchaza ukululama, kanti abalandeli bangathola izindaba abazihlobanisa nazo futhi bazizwe bengahlukanisiwe kangako uma behlangabezana nale nto futhi beyithola isekela. AP Sports

Imiphumela yako ayiqinisekile: ukubika akusunguli ukuthi bangaki ababukeli abathola ukwesekwa okuhlala isikhathi eside noma ukuthi ingxoxo eku-inthanethi iyayishintsha yini imiphumela yesehlukaniso.

Indlela imiphumela engasabalala ngayo

Amavidiyo aphindaphindwayo abadali angakhuthaza abalandeli ukuba babelane ngolwazi lwabo, bafune iseluleko futhi banikeze ukwesekwa. Leyo mpendulo ingakhuthaza ukuthunyelwa okuningi okusebenzayo mayelana nokukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana nokuzimela ngokwezimali.

Lolu chungechunge lungaba buthaka uma abadali beyeka ukuthumela, abalandeli bethola le ndaba ingasizi, noma le ndlela ingasabonakali kangako ezinkundleni.

Ukuhlolwa komthelela

• Abadali: Ukwabelana esidlangalaleni kungakha umphakathi emasontweni azayo, kodwa kudinga ukuqhubeka kwabelwane ngezinto ezinzima ngokomzwelo.
• Abalandeli ababhekene nesehlukaniso: Okuthunyelwe abazihlobanisa nakho kunganikeza ukwesekwa okungakahleleki kontanga futhi kwehlise umuzwa wokuhlukaniswa emasontweni azayo, uma ababukeli bezibandakanya nakho.
• I-TikTok ne-Instagram: Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kuya kweziyi-12, ukuzibandakanya namavidiyo omuntu siqu axoxa indaba kungakhuthaza ukuthi kuvezwe okuningi okuqukethwe ngokululama ebudlelwaneni, kuye ngezinhlelo zokuncoma nesidingo sabasebenzisi.

Izimo ezingase zenzeke

Umbono wethu (ukuqagela okunolwazi):

Okungenzeka kakhulu. Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kuya kweziyi-12, abadali bayaqhubeka nochungechunge lwamavidiyo amafushane mayelana nokululama, ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana nokuzimela ngokwezimali uma abadali nabalandeli bethola okuthunyelwe okuqotho kuwusizo futhi izinkundla ziqhubeka nokuletha amavidiyo agxile ebudlelwaneni kubasebenzisi abazibandakanyayo. Lokhu kungasekelwa uchungechunge oluphindaphindwayo nezingxoxo eziqhubekayo ezigxile ekwesekeni; kungaba buthaka uma abadali besuka kokuqukethwe ngesehlukaniso noma ama-hashtag ahlobene nakho engasabonakali kangako.

Okuhle kakhulu. Le ndlela inwebeka ibe ukushintshisana kontanga okusebenzayo kakhulu mayelana nokukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana nokuzimela ngokwezimali uma abadali behlanganisa ukwabelana kwabo nezifundo abazifundile futhi abalandeli bephendula ngendlela eyakhayo. Lokho kunganweba ukufinyelela okungakahleleki ekwesekweni okusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho. Okuthunyelwe okusebenzayo kakhulu neseluleko esivela ezinhlangothini zombili kumazwana kungasekela le ndlela.

Okubi kakhulu. Lo mkhuba ugxila kakhulu ezindabeni ezisondelene zomuntu siqu nokuqukethwe ngokuziguqula ngemva kwesehlukaniso uma okuthunyelwe okubonakala kakhulu kuvuzisa umbukwane kunengxoxo yomphakathi. Abanye abadali banganciphisa izibuyekezo eziqhubekayo, banciphise indima yale ndlela ekusekeleni. Okuthunyelwe okuvusa amadlingozi kakhulu nochungechunge oluncane oluphindaphindwayo olugxile emphakathini kungabonisa lowo mphumela.

Okufanele kubhekwe ngokulandelayo

Bheka uchungechunge olwengeziwe oluqhubekayo lwabadali mayelana nokululama, ukukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana nokuzimela ngokwezimali; amazwana aqhubekayo abonisa ukufunwa kweseluleko nokwesekana; kanye nokuqhubeka kokubonakala kokuqukethwe okuhlobene nesehlukaniso ku-TikTok naku-Instagram.